Why Should I Kegel?
Kegel balls, or Ben Wa balls, have been used for centuries to strengthen vaginal and pelvic floor muscles. The small, weighted balls come in a variety of different weights and sizes to help you contract and release different muscles with ease.
But Kegel balls do more than just whip your pelvic floor into shape. They’re better known for enhancing sexual pleasure — so much so that they’re also called orgasm balls, Venus balls, jiggle balls, geisha balls, love balls, and pleasure balls.
You should check in with your doctor before use if you:
- are pregnant or recovering from childbirth
- have existing pelvic pain or an active pelvic infection
- are recovering from gynecological surgery
- have an intrauterine device
- use a menstrual cup
To get your Kegel balls ready for use, you should:
- Wash your hands thoroughly with antibacterial soap.
- Wash your Kegel balls with warm water and antibacterial soap, and then dry them off with a clean towel.
- Rub a generous amount of water based line on the balls so they’re easy to insert.
Now that you’ve prepared your Kegel balls, the real fun can begin.
Make sure you apply a liberal amount of line to your vaginal opening before you get into position. This will help prevent discomfort as you guide the Kegel balls in.
After you’re lubed up, you should:
- Lie down in a comfortable position (spread eagle is often best).
- Slowly and steadily insert the first ball.
- Kegel balls are usually connected to each other by a small piece of string or plastic, so slip that inside your vagina as well.
- Once the string is tucked in, gently start to insert the second ball into your vagina.
- Push the balls into your vagina as far as you’re comfortable with. If your balls have a removal string or loop, it should hang outside of your vagina, so make sure it’s not accidentally tucked in with the rest of the balls.
- Tighten your pelvic floor muscles to hold your Kegel balls inside of you, and go about your day.
The balls should feel secure inside your vaginal canal. If you feel like they’re about to fall out — or the first ball is visible outside of your vaginal opening —gently push them deeper into your vagina.
How you feel with the balls inside varies from person to person, but it’s generally a subtle, tingly sensation. This feeling usually intensifies with movement, like walking, bending down, or reaching up.
What you do after you insert your Kegel balls depends on why you’re using them.
If you want to strengthen your pelvic floor, targeted exercises will help you identify and tone your muscles.
If you want to experiment, you’ll focus less on exercise and more on individual sexploration.
For pelvic exercise only
Once you’re comfortable with traditional kegels consider adding weighted Kegel balls. They can enhance your workout by adding an extra challenge.
If you want to add Kegel balls to your routine, you should:
- Lie on your back and insert the balls. Make sure everything’s lubed up.
- Tighten your pelvic floor muscles to lift and squeeze the balls.
- Hold the contraction for 5 seconds, then relax for another 5 seconds.
- Repeat this step 5 times in a row to complete one set.
You can perform up to three sets a day.
For solo sexual pleasure
Kegel balls typically aren’t used in the same way as traditional sex toys.
Although moving them in and out of your vagina is definitely an option, you may find that it’s more intense to leave them inside.
They’ll enhance the sensation of whatever you’re doing.
Need some ideas? Here are two ways you can incorporate Kegel balls to intensify solo play.
- While lying in bed, put your Kegel balls inside your vagina, and start to squeeze your pelvic muscles. As you become more aroused and self-lubricated, begin to explore your body.
- Insert your Kegel balls, and then grab your favorite vibrator. As you squeeze, rub your vibrator on your clitoris and around your vaginal opening.
For partner play
If you want to increase your sensitivity during vaginal sex, Kegel balls can help you and your partner heat things up.
You can insert them before you head out on your date or make insertion the first part of an intense round of foreplay. The longer the balls are in, the more aroused you’ll be when it’s time for the main event.
Just make sure to pull the balls out before your partner — or another toy — slides in.
You can leave Kegel balls in for up to six hours, depending on the balls used and your individual body chemistry. Your doctor can tell you more about best practices for you and your body.
If your Kegel balls have a removal string or loop, you should:
- Lay down in a comfortable position.
- Add more lube to your vaginal opening.
- Slowly pull on the removal string until they slide out.
If your balls are separated, you should:
- Stand with your feet slightly wider than hip distance apart.
- Slightly bend your knees until you’re in a comfortable squat.
- Squeeze your vaginal muscles to push them out, much like with another sex toy or even a tampon.
If the balls don’t come out right away, try to remain calm. You may be able to coax them out by adding mor lube. You can also cough, move around, or even jump up and down to help your muscles contract and release.
Keeping your Kegels balls clean is crucial. If they aren’t cleaned and stored correctly, they can introduce bacteria into your vagina that could lead to infection.
After you remove your Kegel balls, you should:
- Run them under warm water.
- Thoroughly clean them with antibacterial hand soap.
- Rinse them in warm soapy water, and then run them under water to wash off excess residue.
- Pat them dry with a clean towel. You may want to let them air dry for an hour or two to ensure that they’re completely dry before you put them away.
- Once they’re dry, store them in a case of their own.